When we lose someone or something we cherish, we will respond emotionally, psychologically, physically and spiritually. Any or all of these responses may be considered normal and healthy under the circumstances of grief in which we find ourselves:
Physical Responses
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- Tiredness/Lack of Energy
- Difficulty sleeping or prolonged periods of sleep
- Excessive appetite or lack of appetite
- Tightness in chest
- Shortness of breath
- Loss of muscular strength
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- Ulcers
- Heart problems
- Stomach pain
- General nervousness and trembling
- Lump in the throat
- Headaches
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Emotional Responses
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- Shock
- Denial
- Disbelief
- Guilt and self-blame
- Fear
- Feelings of loss/loneliness
- Emptiness
- Sadness/depression
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- Disorganization
- Panic
- Relief
- Powerlessness
- Anger/rage
- Hopelessness
- Shame
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Psychological Responses
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- Inability to concentrate
- Explosive emotions
- Low self-esteem
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- Lack of interest
- Prolonged withdrawal
- Inability to experience pleasure
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Spiritual Responses
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- Anger with God
- Doubts about belief system
- Questions regarding the meaning of life
- Interest in afterlife
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- Changed priorities
- Search for meaning in the event
- Gratitude for time spent together
- Belief that person is happier, no longer suffering, in a better place, etc.
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Healthy Responses to Loss
- Acknowledge that the death has occurred.
- Be aware of your feelings surrounding this death.
- Express your feelings of loss.
- Participate in grief tasks (i.e. attend ritual services, seek support from others, write about your experience, read books, articles and websites, honor your baby and your memories).
